We Dated A Scientologist—Listed Here Is How That Went Down

I always tried to end up being open-minded with regards to interacting with new people, thus I did not work another method whenever my personal date out of the blue revealed he was actually a Scientologist. Exactly what ensued was one of my personal
most notable times actually ever
, though it absolutely remaining my personal mind spinning. Here’s what happened.

1. 
   Every thing began therefore usually.
   
   We might met in a coffee shop because type of “meet adorable” way many dream of. All of our informal discussion ended up being in fact really interesting, and I also need certainly to say he had been fairly charming when that dialogue changed into flirtation. I also had not already been on a night out together for some time during the time, so I did not really wait as he asked me down. The day by itself ended up being fairly typical also. Most likely, we had been just
   going out for lunch
   .
2. 
   Yeah, I became surprised about the Scientology thing.
   
   We simply got our meals during the restaurant if the topic of religion came up. He first asked everything I believed in and that I openly admitted that I have been increased Catholic but currently thought about myself a lot more agnostic than anything else. Their feedback? “Oh. Really, I’m a Scientologist. Are you presently knowledgeable about the Church?” Gotta appreciate just how informal he was, but no, I’d no idea that was coming.
3. 
   A non-Scientologist internet dating a Scientologist is really very rare.
   
   Per my date (and later confirmed by my personal post-date late night internet queries), it really is rather unheard of for a Scientologist to date some one beyond the church. Along with Scientology being one particular
   fundamentalist belief programs
   where in actuality the theology will be the answer to anything and everything in life, additional reason behind this is actually very easy. Scientologists just fork out a lot of the private amount of time in the church/engaging in church programs. That “meet attractive” that individuals had inside coffee shop? He’d just come from a session in church. And in which had been he before our very own go out? At the church without a doubt!
4. 
   The time style of became everything about Scientology.
   
   While I became inclined to say “OK!” and progress, my go out appeared extremely interested in just what my emotions on their faith happened to be. Reality was that I really did not like to simply tell him my personal precise thoughts on Scientology in cases where I insulted him, but In addition failed to want to lie… therefore I affected with my self and informed him that, similar to folks, I’d heard many various things about Scientology, a few of which might not end up being correct. That turned out to be a blunder considering that the remainder of all of our amount of time in that restaurant devoted to him wanting to A) figure out exactly what bad circumstances I would heard and B) convince me personally that Scientology was just FANTASTIC!
5. 
   He had beenn’t the first Scientologist I would actually came across.
   
   While this was actually my personal very first (and just) day actually with a Scientologist, the truth was actually that I would recognized one before. It actually was in fact a pal of my own in school, though she’d long been pretty silent concerning the topic. Subsequently came one summertime where she revealed she had been leaving college to go work with the Church and nothing of us heard from the woman again. Even her Twitter profile ended up being deleted immediately afterwards. From time to time i believe about the lady and expect that she is OK.
6. 
   I found myself contemplating reading every little thing he’d to express, but because We learn religions as an interest.
   
   I Am
   maybe not spiritual myself
   but I’m entirely interested in various belief methods. For decades today, i have examined different religions during my time concise that I can reveal the theology of all of the major types and then some. But rather of enlightening my personal day that I currently knew about courses, OT amounts, engrams, links, the Sea Org, Xenu, Tom Cruise, etc., I remained quiet and listened. Give everybody else an opportunity to share their unique region of the tale, right?
7. 
   Howevern’t actually respond to my personal questions.
   
   Very much like I wanted to listen him explore his very own point of view on their beliefs, he had been very elusive each time I inquired specific questions relating to it. As an example, at one point I asked exactly how much it cost, an average of, for a person to begin in Scientology. Their reaction? “It is thus amusing you ask that because you truly are unable to put an amount onto it.” Afterwards, I inquired what can occur if he or one of is own family actually ever kept the Church. “you actually have a great creative imagination!” the guy stated, before fast changing the subject.
8. 
   Works out he hadn’t experienced extended.
   
   Like many Scientologists, my personal date had joined because people in their household performed, it turned out which they’d already been included for only over 5 years, that will be rather awful brief in comparison to many inside religion. He had been insistent that Scientology had altered their resides for the better but also for some cause won’t actually go into specifics about their parents or siblings beyond basic principles like how old they were and in which they were residing.
9. 
   He was a very great, articulate man. However he had been!
   
   For people who do not know, Scientologists discover through their chapel classes ideas on how to speak much better with individuals. So, a lot of them are extremely poised and well-spoken whenever around others, and I guess dates are not any exception to this rule. Much as I was annoyed by my personal day’s vague answers about his faith, i really couldn’t assist but admire how the guy spoke and shared themselves.
10. 
    No, he did not attempt to hire myself (or at minimum he was refined about this).
    
    I kept waiting around for him to say something such as, “you really need to arrive see for yourself why Scientology rocks. Listed here is a pamphlet!” but I trusted the fact that he never performed. The guy positively portrayed it in a positive light, at some point he performed tell me that he thought I would take advantage of it. Nonetheless, the guy never ever pushed me to go look at the Scientology heart and that I appreciated that. Maybe he hoped I’d supply alone to visit.
11. 
    I thought it perfect for both of us if we don’t carry on circumstances.
    
    I don’t feel dissapointed about my Scientologist time anyway, but I knew we had beenn’t attending work-out. We politely let him know this after the night and therefore we hugged and parted steps. In my opinion he realized that it was the right step too. We never saw him once more.